What should I do with my engagement and wedding rings after divorce?
October 23rd, 2008
in love with superman asked:
I was married August of 2005 and December 2006 I am awaiting the final divorce decree in the mail. A bad situation got worse and we do not speak to each other anymore. (Three weeks after we got married he told me that we never should have done that and it went down hill from there.) We do not have any kids together. He has nothing to do with me. I’m not really fond of the rings he picked out for me. The engagement ring is a bit scratched up from wear and tear and the wedding ring has our date engraved in it. I’ve thought about pawning them, throwing them in our new years eve bon fire, keeping them tucked away forever. I just don’t know what feels right. Maybe I could just sell the diamonds to a jewelry store and burn the settings. I’m trying to clean my life up and start to close the wounds and move on to better things. Any ideas would be great.
I was married August of 2005 and December 2006 I am awaiting the final divorce decree in the mail. A bad situation got worse and we do not speak to each other anymore. (Three weeks after we got married he told me that we never should have done that and it went down hill from there.) We do not have any kids together. He has nothing to do with me. I’m not really fond of the rings he picked out for me. The engagement ring is a bit scratched up from wear and tear and the wedding ring has our date engraved in it. I’ve thought about pawning them, throwing them in our new years eve bon fire, keeping them tucked away forever. I just don’t know what feels right. Maybe I could just sell the diamonds to a jewelry store and burn the settings. I’m trying to clean my life up and start to close the wounds and move on to better things. Any ideas would be great.
give them bacc or pawn them.
Pawn them. Cash is always nice.
Well, whatever works for you. You have a few options here, guess it’s all about what you want to do with those options.
Get it melted into something you like.
Pawn the diamonds and burn the rest.
Good luck on the starting over.
You have choices indeed. Sell or pawn the rings and obtain cash. Or you could have the diamond reset into a pendant to your liking. It is now yours.
I would say based on what is happening that you get rid of them in what ever means you think right. If it were me I would try to get some money out of them…I would not keep them due to the fact that I would not want to have the memories of the relationship every time I saw them. Then I wold move on. Hope this helps…Cheers
There are jewelry stores that will buy your rings for the gold and gems so they can use them in other settings…(they would melt the metal and re shape it)….sorry to hear about your mis-fortune….but i would seriously get rid of them …you dont need that bad mojo around
Have the gold melted down and made into a new ring and have the diamonds set in it , Starting with something new just like your life after divorce . Most jewelry stores can help you with that
well there is always the option of selling the rings…but I would keep them…if it was that bad…I will have e remainder what not to do:)))))
You could give the diamonds to me, I need an engagement ring in the near future. If you are going to burn them, PLEASE contact me first!
Sell them and use the money to do something you want to do…depending upon how much you get for them, a vacation or payment on one, might be nice…
If he doesnt tlak to you he obviously doesn’t want them back. My suppgetion is keep the diamonds, do not keep them in ring form but get them made into a necklace of sorts. Although men may not last forever diamonds do.
Get rid of those rings and find yourself a good man.
I would pawn them and go on a nice vacation like a cruise or skiing this winter. Enjoy your life, you only get one.
i would sell them or trade them in on a nice ring i liked.why hold onto something that has no meaning in life? GL in your future and Get out and have fun.. there is someone out there just waiting to meet a sweet person like yourself….
find a homeless person and give them to him he can use the 100 buck to get a bite to eat
Pawning them you will get very little.
Take the center stone of the engagement ring out and make it into a necklace
I have mine in a drawer!
I know it is so important to clean up your space after a divorce.. I have been doing that now for 2 years.. Each time I purge things it literally feels like a weight is gone off my back.
Many people sell them on E-Bay or trade them in and up on other jewelry.
I will probably do that, or trade it in on another ring if I decide to get married again…
I really don’t know what to do… I may also give it to my daughter… I wore it every day for 20 years… Now it is kind of meaningless to me.. but it is worth like 6 thousand dollars. Please keep us posted on what you decide. It will help me out.
Have the stones made into a necklace? or keep them as a reminder of everything you don’t want in a relationship
I would definetly keep them you can always pawn them throughout your life if you need the money and just it’s something to have you earned those honey.
Go to a jeweler and sell them or put on ebey and auction them ..what ever you do ..turn them in to money and spend is ….don’t do a heat of the moment thing ..and throw money away…one day you kick your self ..and you will cringe at the thought of getting rid of rings for nothing .
that’s the best way forward no reminder of a bad experience …good luck
Personally I would Pawn them. Thats what I did with the ones given back to me by an ex.
Keep them in case you find another person and have not enough money to get new ones.
You can put them in a box , in a drawer and forget about them,Maybe you can need money sometime in your life and can sell the diamonds then.
I don’t think it’s an issue for worrying too much.
There are more important things to consider.
Don’t keep them tucked away forever. Take them to a jeweler and see if they can create a new piece of jewelry that you can where any or all the time. Like a pendant, ear-rings, or maybe even a delicate bangle with inserts.
I still have my wedding bands that have diamonds throughout. I still wear the ring from time to time because I LOVE the ring/style and not the man who gave them too me. Its MY ring and I have decided that I can keep it because there is closure in my heart, and I really do love the ring… and besides, I may not see that many diamonds in one place ever again. LOL.
Just take your time and make the decision that feels right in your heart.
I gave my wedding band to my best friend,. She always complimented it and I designed the ring. I wanted to give the ring some dignity and counlt get my self to trow it away. She wears the ring, it’s prety is has 5 diamonds and she loves it.
My engagement ring, I had it put away. The stone is worth a bit and I would like to either exchange it for another ring or keep the stone and pass it on when my son is ready to get engaged. I will make a differnt band of course, I want the diamond to be passed on… of course, there is a LONG time before that, but I just don;t think that getting a few hundred dollars for it, I;m not going to get my monies worth, I pay for the ring after all (yeah, I did a Britney, Oopps!)
I kept mine, and still wear them as a constant reminder not to be that stupid again. Good Luck, or you can always go to the jewelry store. They do take jewelry in on trade. And get something new, then you can keep the memory in another way.
– If you want to get rid of them, for the sake of getting them out of your life/your house, then pawn or sell them. Just keep in mind you will never get good money from a pawn shop or by selling them (no where near the actual purchase price of the rings.)
If you want a symbol of starting over, taking a bad situation and turning it into something good……
- I would suggest having the diamonds reset into another ring or necklace.
I have a friend that made hers into a ring she refers to as the “AHole Ring”. – She says she looks at it when she goes out to bars or meets new guys. It reminds her not to get involved with any other AHoles!-lol
Good Luck! and congrats on your new (happier) life!
I agree with what someone said about giving them to a homeless person! Or sell them and give that money to a homeless person. I think it would feel good to do a good deed with those bad memories!
sell them and party all week with the money
If you have really nice diamonds, you should keep them. Take the rings to a jewelry store and have them custom design into something that you will feel comfortable of wearing. I had a carat diamond and made a pendant out of it. I just love it. So do something fun with your jewelry.
Take them to a good jeweler and see if he can make then into something else like a right hand ring, or a pendant. Nothing like taking something old and turning it into something new. Diamonds are diamonds, just think of your new jewelry as a parting gift from your ex!
Sell them on Ebay.