what to do when you’ve just found out you 3 carat diamond wedding ring is cz?
October 17th, 2008
Lynn asked:
husband bought it from, friend/private jeweler.
We have been married for 7 years, this was an anniversary gift( a complete suprise). I have just worn a band up till now. Very much love my husband, but confused as to how this could happen/ did he know? He claims not to have known.
I found out by taking it to a jeweler to see about sizing it ( a little too big). I was slightly humiliated. It has been three days since I found out. My husband has not talked to friend/private jeweler yet. He seems a little relaxed about this whole thing.
husband bought it from, friend/private jeweler.
We have been married for 7 years, this was an anniversary gift( a complete suprise). I have just worn a band up till now. Very much love my husband, but confused as to how this could happen/ did he know? He claims not to have known.
I found out by taking it to a jeweler to see about sizing it ( a little too big). I was slightly humiliated. It has been three days since I found out. My husband has not talked to friend/private jeweler yet. He seems a little relaxed about this whole thing.
did the jeweler sell it to him as a diamond? because that is fraud. or did your husband know, but tell you it is diamond?
hahaha! Trust me, he knew. That is one of the oldest lines in the book.
divorce him
obviously tried to impress you, but couldn’t back it up…
but the thought was there, but you seem too much of a gold-digger to appreciate the thought behind the ring…
move on!!!
Kill him.
Wait, dump him first, THEN kill him.
* A woman is NOT a gold digger for wanting a REAL diamond (it’s tradition!) for her wedding ring or anniversary. Men have gotten so cheap, lazy, worthless, and trifling, they simply can’t be bothered with such a priceless symbol. These days, if you pay for the movie, and the popcorn, but you ask him to buy the sodas…you’re a gold digger. Pathetic. Simply Pathetic.**
* ONE MORE THING*
In my 30 years of living, I have NEVER met a man who would own up to something he lied about or did wrong. Slim chance of your husband being any different.
Ask the friend/private jeweller to explain.
make him buy you the real thing! that should be punishment enough for lying to you!
If you married him for LOVE, then wear the ring with pride, and know that he gave it to you as a TOKEN of love. If you married him cause of the size of the ring, then you are shallow and divorce him.
verify with your husband that he purchased the ring thinking it was a diamond. Ifhe did then you both need to confront the jeweler about it. He may have known when he purchased it though……..
Should it really matter, the thought was there, the ring is not the most important factor its the relationship, the ring is just a material object
Okay, first, did the husband know that it was a fake? If so, then I wouldn’t really mind, but I’d be kind of irked that he didn’t tell me it was fake to begin with!! If he didn’t know it was fake, I’d speak with his ‘friend’ about getting some of that money wasted back.
I’d thank my lucky stars that my future hubby was reasonable enough not to waste money on superficial things.
Did your husband know? If not, you should probably tell him. He might feel embarrassed at his mistake, but he should know. Then you need to go to this friend who sold him the fake and demand a real ring.
If he did, I wouldn’t jump the gun too quickly. You need to weigh out the circumstances. On the one hand, he got you a fake ring, something that is supposed to symbolize your relationship and dedication to each other. On the other hand, he may be financially pressed and cannot afford a real diamond. Either way, you need to talk it out with him. If you approach him in a calm, negotiative way, you will get positive results. As a couple, you need to work things out together. A problem with money can be fixed; many couples marry with a cuban zerconian ring until they can afford a real diamond. However, a problem with trust may be a bigger issue, but one that can be worked through all the same.
Your FRIEND appears to have scammed your husband. Did he pay next to nothing for it or a lot? Sounds as if you need to get the authorities in on this.
I’m so sorry for this mess. Sounds as if your husband tried to buy you a star from the skies and you should just adore him for it.
So sorry for your stress.
Good luck.
We even had a jeweler here that scammed the famous golfer Jack Nickolas! PLEASE read this and know you are not alone!
Give your hubby a big hug. That man must feel worse than you do…he’s the one who was scammed AND disappointed his new wife.
I would be looking for friend and calling the police about the matter..just make sure your husband is telling you the truth about the ring…..
if your hubby didn’t know then i would turn that friend in. sorry but that is fraud and is a felony. if your husband did know he better do lots of butt kissing to you to make up for it. maybe when he bought it he was hoping to buy you a real one really soon just like it. he was thinking he didn’t want to disappoint you and wanted to give you something wonderful and couldn’t afford it at the time…. that is another possibility.
Be totally happy with the gift! It must look amazing!
It should have come with paperwork showing that it was a certified diamond. You would need that paperwork to insure it. If he got said paperwork and it stated it was a genuine diamond that that is fraud on the part of his “friend” plain and simple and the authorities should get involved.
If he bought the ring knowing it was a cz not a diamond then the issues are more in your relationship than the ring. You said you were married for 7 years. If you had wanted a ring so badly you would have pushed for it years ago so I do not think you are a gold digger by any means. But something triggered him to go and by this ring and lie to you about it. Mind you that something could very well just be stupidity.
It is not so much an issue of him buying you a cz as much as it is an issue of him buying you a cz and lying about it. It’s the thought that counts. But what kind of a thought is it if he lied about it?
Come on….. the only person than can afford a 3 carat diamond is J.Lo and Koby Bryant…hello????
Of course it was bling…. or what…do you think that your husband has 200 thousand dollars under the matress?
Please.
If he says he didn’t know, then you should believe he didn’t know. Also, ask yourself why it matters if it’s diamond or cz. What makes a gift valuable isn’t the amount of money that was spent on it.
The 3 carats didn’t tip you off?! A high quality 3 carat diamond would be RIDICULOUSLY expensive.
If he really didn’t know before, then he would be VERY angry, because I would assume that if he thought he was buying a 3 carat diamond, he would have spent A LOT of money. The fact that he doesn’t make a big deal of it is a giveaway that he knew it was a CZ.
Don’t be such a snob. He tried to get you a nice ring. Its the thought that counts. If you really want a diamond, go out and buy one for yourself this is the 21st century after all.
He really might not have known that it wasn’t a diamond. Lots of guys have no clue about that stuff. If he paid for a diamond though he should be MAD as heck! I would see what the receipt says. If it says “diamond” and the guy ripped him off then he should get y’alls money back or sue the guy.
I wouldn’t blame your husband.
WOW!!! If he knew the two of you have some things to talk about….
Well I mean maybe he really didn’t know…Maybe the jewler really did sell it to him as a diamond. Just talk to him about it.
First, I would go talk to the “friend”….and if he claims to have sold it as a diamond, ask for the reciept and if it’s true that he did sell it as a diamond (you’ll know because it will be very considerably priced!!) then tell him that you are going to sue him for fraud. (because it is fraud). You don’t even have to actually go through with a police report because at that point, if your husband IS lying….he’s going to start talking REALLY fast!! If no one talks, continue with the police report. If you husband didn’t know (highly unlikely unless your “friend” is a scam artist) then at least you will get your money back and maybe he will go to a reputable dealer for a ring this time.
Oh and by the way! You are NOT a gold digger for wanting a real ring! You lived 7 years without one!!! It’s honestly about time you get yourself a nice ring (and 3 carat is VERY nice!). Ignore anyone who says your a gold digger…you saw the symbolism behind a wedding band, now its time for you to see some kind of REAL (not CZ) bling on your finger!
A 3 carat ring would have been very expensive.
Assume your husband was lying to you. I would not let this rest. Ask him how he paid for it and how much, since it is a fake. I would get the truth out of him.
If he still claims fraud, then tell him you are calling the police to file a report.