Is it alright not to have a diamond wedding ring?
September 5th, 2008
datgrluluv asked:
Ok, I always had this idea that I wanted a diamond ring in a antique setting. When I started looking around at rings I saw this brandy colored citrine vintage marcasite art nouvea ring and fell head over hills in love with it. I love the ring but I’m wondering if people will frown down on it or think that my man was to cheap to buy a “real ring”. The few people who have seen it, my husbands grandparents and few others have made comments about it not being a diamond. I told them that my ring is just what I wanted and they give me that look like “yeah right”. What the @#@! am I wrong and should we go get another ring?
Ok, I always had this idea that I wanted a diamond ring in a antique setting. When I started looking around at rings I saw this brandy colored citrine vintage marcasite art nouvea ring and fell head over hills in love with it. I love the ring but I’m wondering if people will frown down on it or think that my man was to cheap to buy a “real ring”. The few people who have seen it, my husbands grandparents and few others have made comments about it not being a diamond. I told them that my ring is just what I wanted and they give me that look like “yeah right”. What the @#@! am I wrong and should we go get another ring?
Who cares if it’s diamond or not? It’s your ring so you should get whatever you want.
yes..you can wear whatever you want! Even celebrities are doing that
It is perfectly fine to have a ring without a diamond. There is no point caring about what other people think since it is YOU who has to wear the ring every single day. Get what means the most to you.
if that is what you want, then who cares what other people think! besides, you can always change your mind down the line and upgrade to diamonds later!
it is going to be the ring you wear for the rest of YOUR life - your mother doesn’t have to wear it and your grandmother doesn’t have to wear it. If it is the one you love than that is the one YOU chose - not him and so how can they possibly say he cheaped out. Besides it doesn’t really matter the truth so long as you two both know it. That ring represents YOU two, not somebody else’s opinion.
I’d only have a white gold diamond ring but that is my choice. If you like the ring, go for it. No ones comments should stop you.
it’s your finger and if you love it that’s all that really matters
if people are driving you nuts with it you have to decide if you’re willing to give up the ring you love to shut them up
you could (if you can afford it) wear a diamond on your left and the other on your right… then it’s the best of both worlds!
It’s your ring.
Make it out of twizzlers if you want.
Besides, think of what you could do with that money, it it wasn’t blown on a rock whose value is artificially inflated.
Diamonds in Wedding rings have only been in vogue for about 80 years.
I say, if you want another stone — go for it! Why should the DeBeers cartel dictate what everyone should wear on their ring finger????
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No! That ring is a symbol of the love that the two of you have together. That includes how happy you make each other. That ring made you happy so therefore it’s perfect for you. Getting another ring is just silly, and expensive.
This is only for you and your groom to decide. No one else.
Its your ring get what you want. The diamond tradition is a modern construct starting in the 20th century - before then people used all kinds of rings. My husband & I share September birthdays and as such I wanted a Sapphire (our birthstone) engagement ring. He wanted a diamond so I took what he wanted to give me - but in my heart, I still long for the sapphire.
Ps… My daughters birthstone is Citrine. Citrine is LOVELY stone & I feel that is totally underated. It’s going to make a great ring for you & a great conversation starter! GO FOR IT!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. The fact that you even had to ask that question is a testament to just how much the De Beers diamond company has brainwashed Americans.
Do NOT get a diamond just to please other people. My god, you can purchase a BMW instead of a KIA with the money saved from your average diamond engagement ring.
Wear whatever you want! If it’s on your left ring finger, people will know what it means.
My only concern is that citrine and marcasite aren’t going to be able to withstand being worn every day without getting scratched. That’s one of the reasons people like diamonds or sapphires, b/c they are very durable.
I have several wedding rings, and I switch them out. The one I wear most often is from QVC and only cost $115. It’s an eternity band of several rows of CZs, and it’s beautiful - depending on my mood, I’ll either tell people it’s QVC or I’ll just let them assume it’s real.
you should get exactly what you want. who cares if it’s untraditional or not real. if you want the ring, you should have it! = )
No if it is what you really want more power to you! They don’t have to live with it. Personally I think the whole diamond thing is overrated!
You have to wear the ring so get it if you love it and dont worry about what other people think
It’s your ring and I think it’s not so much what it looks like, although people put although of emphasis on that it’s the meaning of the ring that matters most. I think if you’re happy with it, that’s all that matters! Congrats!!!
have whatever makes you happy
What is a diamond really but compressed carbon. The diamond engagement/wedding ring is a sham and marketing scheme created by De Beers to take the money from young and old bachelors alike. Before De Beers, Opal was actually the stone of choice for marriage.
But you will probably find adversity to your decision should you go with the citrine if only because of its monetary value. A diamond ring with its outrageous pricetag affords (maybe) the peace of mind that your suitor is true of heart and is willing to invest in a material gesture to prove to you his true intent.
Hats off to you for looking beyond the status quo and finding something YOU truly like, that’ll have meaning to you. Who knows perhaps your decision will lead to a family heirloom for future generations!
GL
it is your ring so you should get what you want..
no its up to you. as long as you like that then that fine. who cares what other people think of it. you like it and thats that.
if you have to ask– get a diamond because you obviously care what strangers think
-and the majority of strangers are gonna look at your lack of diamond and judge you and wonder what the heck happened to your diamond or why dont you have one.
Sooo if you really care what others might think just go ahead..stick with tradition and get a diamond!
Do you love it?? You do!!! so who cares what they say. Its yours for the rest of you life no one elses, SCREW WHAT THEY SAY!!! Don’t let other peoples negative attitude towards something different ruin your out look!!! And the ring sound lovely and eccentric!
How important is other people’s opinion to you? If it’s extremely important that other people “approve” of your ring, and if a lot of “other people” around you are dead-pan traditionalists, then go with a more traditional ring. If you feel that the most important thing is that YOU love your ring, then get a ring you love. It’s completely up to you - there’s absolutely no rule that makes diamond a “must-have” engagement stone; from the practical standpoint, you can have any ring you want, or none at all - all that matters is what makes YOU happiest. My own engagement ring is a blue topaz, and I love it. The fact that I don’t wear a diamond doesn’t make my marriage any less “real” - I just don’t like diamonds that much.
I have a 4 ct. pink sapphire that cost $200. And as I was getting my dress altered today 3 of the girls at the bridal shop had a field day over how beautiful & unique it was.
One of the girls a had a huge yellow stone surrounded by diamonds that was so HOT!!
Just do you..4get about “people”. Alot of people don’t understand my ring either but Oh Well…they may not understand why you shop at Target and not Macys…who cares..your obviiously cool enough to pull it off.
Try this website:, this is full of brides who arent all about “the Bling”!!! Or 100% ways of doing things.
A diamond as an engagement ring is a modern day phenomenon…a result of very agressive and clever advertising campaigns by the diamond cartels who hold a monopoly on gem quality diamonds……they created the demand ( A diamond is forever…Say it with Diamonds) and they set the price….being a cartel there is no real challenge to the outrageous cost of a rather common gemstone..many such as rubies, topaz, etc are far more rare…..the cost has nothing to do with rarity..it has everything to do with demand.
Your ring sounds absolutely gorgeous..and I love marcasite, especially in the style you describe.
Ignore the dumn @ss comments Hon…you love the ring and that’s all that matters…you choose not to follow the herd and be unique…kuddos to you….and FYI my ring is not diamonds…there are round diamonds on it as accents but it’s his birthstone and mine, garnet & peridot…both heart shaped in a twist setting……it was a suprise…he had it custom made knowing I don’t care for diamonds and value sentimentality….and I love my ring…
Edit: and for this past x-mas he got me a gorgeous 4 carat cushion cut solitaire…nope, not a diamond…a natural green amethyst…it’s pastel mint green color and sparkle remind me of crystal clear spring water…..beautiful and original !
Bethany-chrome diopside is absolutely beautiful and outshines emeralds IMO…..I gave my guy a black star diopside….looks like a deep black star sapphire..and he loves it.
It’s all that matters, that you love it…good luck.
If you like it thats all that matters…
You like the ring, you keep the ring, and tell others to MYOB.
Actually, in my reading while planning my wedding, colored stones are becoming increasingly popular for engagement and wedding rings.
My own engagement ring is a 6mm round cut chrome diopside. It’s deep green and beautiful. I knew going in that I didn’t want a diamond solitaire, I didn’t get a diamond solitaire, and I adore my ring.
My wedding band does have diamonds on it, but they’re yellow, not white, and most people won’t automatically think “diamonds” when they look at it. I think the band is gorgeous, and once the set is put together, it’s going to be stunning.
If people can’t get over their diamondphilia (particularly the white-diamondphilia) and accept that you’ve got a ring you love… That’s their problem, not yours.
Consider yourself one of the trailblazers of a new tradition!
You should get what you want and not worry about what other people think.
I got a sapphire engagement ring. It has tiny diamond accents on it but I love it. My husband’s grandmother asked me “to see the diamond” when she heard we were engaged but she just assumed it’d be a diamond. My husband knew I wasn’t a diamond girl and he bought me the most beautiful ring. I haven’t gotten any rude comments about it. My mom and my grandmother both have rings that aren’t diamonds. If they give you nasty looks just say that you got the ring you wanted and aren’t so snobby that you would pick a diamond over the ring you really wanted just because it’s expensive. Keep that ring and love it. The meaning behind it is the most important. You’ve promised to marry the man you love more than anyone else and you should wear the ring you think is the most beautiful to represent that. These other people need to get over themselves.
Yay for non-diamond rings!!!
There’s a forum on and that people post pictures of their non-diamond rings. They are the awesomest because they are so unique and beautiful.
Art noveau rings are really pretty as well. I love the more antique styles. My ring is diamond, but it is an antique family heirloom. If my fiance bought me a new ring, I wouldn’t want a diamond either.
You know, when you guys get married, his money becomes yours in a way. These funds become shared to purchase houses and living expenses. He’s not being ‘cheap’ at all. It’s called enjoying what you have and doing it sensibly.
I hate it when people expect diamond rings. Could you post a picture of the ring? I love seeing unique rings
No you do not have to get a diamond ring if you don’t want one.
Yes, it’s ok. Some women prefer other stones, like their birthstone, or just a stone that they have always liked. Diamonds are traditional, but it isn’t a law or anything. You can have whatever you want!
I didn’t want a diamond and I got exactly what I wanted!!!
Don’t let anyone frown upon you for it.
I do find myself telling people its my engagement ring if they comment on it. I want my fiance to get the credit for it
It does not matter what stone you wear on your finger, the notion that engagement rings can only be diamond is bollocks. Not only are the prices overinflated but think of the blood diamonds (although some countries do conflict-free diamonds) and also the fact that most women have the exact same thing. The bridal industry has done a pretty good job of brainwashing people into thinking that it has to be a white diamond or else it isn’t an engagement ring. You can have any gemstone that you want in there. I would personally go for a pink tourmaline or a good tanzanite, but that’s me. You don’t even have to do a ring! I know people who are engaged but they don’t have or don’t wear a ring.
Citrine is a gorgeous stone, and if anyone tells you that your fiance is cheap or that it isn’t an engagement ring, tell them that it isn’t any of their business what you wear, and it’s what you will wear for the rest of your life so it should be what you want.
It is perfectly fine to have an engagement ring without diamonds. I came across this ring on a site and am going to get that for my engagement. Have a look at it!