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Is engagement ring same as wedding ring? Or people have two rings?

February 18th, 2008
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Love_Sprite asked:


Does the guy get a ring for an engagement? Or is it only the girl? And what happens at wedding? Do they exchange same ring again? Or have two rings instead?

My boyfriend proposed to me in the most unexpected situation..and he did not have a ring with him at that time. Now, we are having an engagement party next month where would exchange the rings. We are going to pick the rings together. Currently we live in different towns and we have decided to have a wedding next year or so..when I end my contract with my company and move to his place. isn’t it customary to exchange rings for wedding as well? So, we get two rings?

I have seen girls wearing an engagement ring with a diamond and a wedding band which is more simpler. But, I have never seen guys wearing two rings!!

Pour in your thoughts please!

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  1. Audrey C
    February 20th, 2008 at 19:01 | #1

    the engagement ring is worn with the wedding band and the guy only gets a ring at the wedding I don’t see why you couldn’t have two rings if you wanted to make Ur own rules its Ur exchange your choice

  2. here_without_you ?
    February 21st, 2008 at 10:55 | #2

    usually from my knowledge the engagement ring is the prettier one :) for the wedding its usualy a band, can have diamonds but not the stone as on an engagement ring. so yes i think you have 2. and congrats!

  3. Ista
    February 24th, 2008 at 08:43 | #3

    Girls get the engagement ring. Not guys. Hardly seems fair does it? Both get a wedding ring. Some forsake the engagement ring, others don’t. But neither wear a wedding ring until wed, hence… wedding ring.

  4. Mommyof2
    February 26th, 2008 at 04:02 | #4

    The guy doesn’t get a ring until the wedding. My first wedding I had a engagement ring with a wedding ring that went together and that I had the Jeweler sauter them together. For my wedding to my husband since we were low on money I used my engagement ring in our wedding he used the band I got him and later for my birthday this year he got me a gold band. We want to in the future get matching his/her wedding rings. The guys only get one ring and they get that when they get married. I am sure it will be wonderful. Good luck and congrats.

  5. kimber_and_kyle_forever
    February 28th, 2008 at 16:57 | #5

    Guys don’t normally wear engagement rings. The girl does. I actually have a promise ring, which is a band with diamonds set in it, an engagement ring with a diamond, and when I get married, I will have a wedding band which will be put together with the engagement ring. If you have an engagement ring with a diamond, it’s best to get a wedding band. And if you have an engagement band, get a wedding ring. But guys only wear one ring which they receive from you at the wedding. He will place your wedding ring onto your finger, then you will place his wedding ring onto his finger. In the end, you will have one ring (your engagement ring will be put together with your wedding one) and he will have one (since he doesn’t get an engagement ring, just a wedding ring.)I hope that wasn’t too confusing!

  6. getonthegrindlike.clockwork
    February 29th, 2008 at 13:52 | #6

    Well, if the guy is proposing, he will usually buy his women an engagement ring, then when they get married they will both exchange a wedding band. So then the women would have 2 rings, and the man would have one. But when my cousin proposed, she bought him an engagement ring, and her self one, then they both got bands. Also when my parents got married, my mother made her wedding band and her engagement ring all into one , and brought it to the jeweller.
    But over all a women usually has 2 rings, and the husband one.

  7. scottclear
    March 2nd, 2008 at 20:22 | #7

    The girl normally gets the only engagement ring. It generally has a stone in it.

    Wedding bands are exchanged at the wedding. They may or may not have stones in them, but if they do, they are generally smaller than the engagement stone and set into the gold (or other metal the ring is made out of).

    If you are poor like I was, we only exchanged wedding bands–couldn’t afford an engagement ring. Frees up money for other things. It is the commitment that counts, not necessarily the outward sign of the commitment.

  8. Mrs. June 6th, 2009
    March 3rd, 2008 at 04:43 | #8

    Well, traditionally the engagement ring is for the girl only…symoblizing a man’s love for the woman he wants to be his wife. She wears it on her left ring fingers because ancient times believe that there is a vein that runs from that finger straight to your heart. Then the couple exchanges wedding bands at the wedding. So, 2 rings for the girl and 1 ring for the guy. But my fiance works in the construction industry, so he will be getting two rings…not to wear both at once, but one to wear to work and one to wear at home or out on the town. His work ring will be titanium and his dress ring will be white gold with diamonds and onyx. To each is their own…

  9. vle045
    March 5th, 2008 at 19:13 | #9

    Are you from another country? You don’t exchange any rings at an engagement party. It’s just a party.

    The guy gives the girl an engagement ring when he asks her to marry him. If he fails to have a ring when he asks, it’s ok to give it later.

    It is not customary for the guy to get an engagement ring.

    You have separate wedding bands for the wedding that both the bride and groom place on each others finger.

  10. fizzy stuff
    March 6th, 2008 at 00:27 | #10

    The guy does not wear an engagement ring. And you dont need to “exchange” them at an engagement party; thats what wedding is all about.
    If you go the usual route, you would get an engagement ring now. You have a normal engagement party (without exchanging rings, you just wear yours!). And then you both buy a wedding band for the actual wedding ceremony. You exchange the rings during the wedding ceremony. So, you get two rings. He gets one.

  11. SeaShells09
    March 7th, 2008 at 21:01 | #11

    Well the guy doesnt wear and engagement ring, the girl does and it usally consits of a diamond or some kind of stone on it. and for your wedding, you do wedding bands, it usually matches the engagement ring. you can usually get it in sets, like when u buy and engagement ring at a store they should have a band that looks similar to the engagement ring, and u can buy both. girls get guys a wedding band. but not an engagement ring.

  12. Kitty
    March 11th, 2008 at 05:56 | #12

    Traditionally in the US: guy proposes girl and gives her an engagement ring, usually a diamond solitaire. Then, couple buys wedding rings, and exchanges them during the wedding ceremony. Girl ends up with two rings, guy with just one.

    However, there’s no laws governing the exchange of rings, and it’s totally up to you as to how you want to handle it.

  13. SuzyBelle04
    March 11th, 2008 at 08:46 | #13

    the guy gives the girl an engagement ring when he asks her to marry him. then on the wedding day they give each other wedding rings. when my fiancee and i first started dating, about 3-4 months, he got me a pink heart shaped sapphire as a promise ring, and then i wanted to get him one, so we went and picked out a titanium ring that was plain and that was his promise ring. then when we got engaged, he gave me my engagement ring, but he had also bought the matching wedding band as well. we are about to buy his ring as well, once the wedding date gets closer. but the engagement ring is usually fancier, at least in my case, and the wedding band matches perfectly, but is worn on the outside to protect the huge rock on the engagement ring.

  14. kazacan44
    March 14th, 2008 at 04:46 | #14

    When a man proposes, and the girl accepts, they are engaged. He can either give her a ring that same day or they can go shopping together and select a ring. This engagement ring is for her to wear to show other guys that she is “taken”. An engagement party is NOT thrown by the couple. That is very rude as it looks like you want people to bring gifts. An engagement party is thrown by one of the PARENTS and it is an event to introduce the future son-in-law or daughter-in-law to close friends and relatives. The invitations should state “No gifts please” and it should be worded something like : John and Mary Smith are delighted to announce the engagement of our daughter Susan to Mark Jones. You are invited to an open house on …. to meet our future son-in-law. No gifts please!” You should already have received your engagement ring as people will want to see your ring and congratulate you. Some girls nowadays buy their guy a ring but it is not customary. This would be a “dressy” ring to wear on his right hand after he receives his wedding ring at the marriage but, really, this is more usual for gay men to do. As for the wedding bands — if you are going together to select your engagement ring, this is the best opportunity to select both your wedding bands as you will be able to try yours on alongside the engagement ring to ensure that they look nice together. Truly, throwing your own engagement party and exchanging rings at that event sounds weird.And, btw, suzibell is incorrect about the rings - the wedding band is worn on the inside, closest to your heart - and the engagement ring on the outside. It is the marriage that is important, not the size of the rock.

  15. samcane
    March 15th, 2008 at 03:37 | #15

    The engagement and wedding ring are 2 SEPERATE rings. They are usually worn together after the woman is married. Thats why you see a lot of weddng bans w/ 2 rings..cause one ring is the engagement the other is the wedding ring.

  16. lhga
    March 17th, 2008 at 10:00 | #16

    because men don’t get engagement rings. Don’t exchange rings, you do that at the wedding.

  17. nana_14
    March 20th, 2008 at 07:55 | #17

    When the guy proposes he gives you a ring. & it is called an engagement ring. That’s what my fiance’ did. And then when you get married you both exchange rings that’s when he gets his ring. He doesn’t wear a ring when you get engaged.

  18. paulamarie27
    March 21st, 2008 at 13:02 | #18

    i guess i did not have a typical engagement ring then…. mine was a flat band with twelve diamonds going around it.there was no stone at all and then my wedding ring had a 1/2 carrot diamond and twelve smaller diamonds around it. usually the girl is the only one who wears a ring and then when they get married the couple exchanges rings and that is the only one the man wears but it is up to you how you want to do it.

  19. bluegirl6
    March 24th, 2008 at 21:01 | #19

    Traditionally guys dont get an engagement ring. He proposes to the girl with a ring, usually a solitaire diamond or it can be any stone.
    During the wedding the bride and groom exchange rings, but again, I know men who have not had wedding bands. Most do I think tho. The wedding ring is usually less fancy than the engagement ring.
    In this day and age tho, if your man wants an engagement ring, go for it. He could always wear it on the other hand when you get the wedding rings

  20. Nay nay
    March 27th, 2008 at 11:15 | #20

    The engagment ring is given to only the girl when the guy proposes, later at the wedding ceremony they exchange wedding bands, but the guy only gets one ring. The girl wears her engagment ring and wedding band… hope this help kinda confusing huh!

  21. actuary0424
    March 29th, 2008 at 14:16 | #21

    women get an engagement ring and a wedding band– the engagement ring is fancy and the band is usually simple– and men get a wedding band. The wedding bands are exchanged at the ceremony and the engagement ring is worn throughout the engagement and marriage

  22. leaperpup
    March 29th, 2008 at 19:46 | #22

    There is one engagement ring, for the bride to be; the groom to be doesn’t get an engagement ring as a general rule. The engagement ring is just that, a sign of betrothal. Many engaged couples get matching ring sets, engagement and wedding ring for her and a wedding ring for him. Wear the engagement ring from the time he presents it to you. Remove the engagement ring for the wedding ceremony. He will place the wedding ring on your finger and you will do the same with his wedding ring assuming it is a double ring ceremony. The engagement ring is then placed back on the 3rd finger of the left hand. The wedding goes on first because it is then closer to the heart. Tradition says that there is a major blood vessel that runs from the ring finger directly to the heart and that’s why the ring is worn or that finger. There are times when couples don’t have the money and an engagement ring wasn’t purchased and given until the 10th anniversary! I know of one case where the groom didn’t have enough money to buy a wedding ring so he made one from a horse shoe nail.

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