what to do if you found out your husband put a fake diamond in your wedding ring?
December 14th, 2006
speedqueen asked:
i lost the diamond in my wedding ring and he said his mother had a diamond she would put in it. i gave it to him and when i called the jewlers about my ring i was told he had a cz put in it and not a diamond. what would you do
i lost the diamond in my wedding ring and he said his mother had a diamond she would put in it. i gave it to him and when i called the jewlers about my ring i was told he had a cz put in it and not a diamond. what would you do
It is a ring..a piece of jewelry…a inanimate object.
What matters is your relationship, not how much your ring is worth.
Maybe he couldn’t afford a real diamond and was embarrassed to tell you that.
I would laugh my bum off. That’s brilliant. Diamonds are silly and pretentious (though beautiful) and if you didn’t notice it was a fake, what did it hurt?
It’s absurd that men are expected to cough up thousands of dollars for a tiny piece of metal and stone just to propose to a woman. Why don’t we have to buy them a $5k ring as well? LOL
He probably couldn’t afford a real one. Hell, I lost my giant ring so many times…”Hon, I know it’s midnight but I have to go back to the U Wash Doggie place…” He may have not wanted to spend the money for fear of your losing it again and insurance on a diamond is ridiculously expensive, too. Don’t argue with him, his heart and his head are in the right place.
be thankful he even took the time to put a stone in it, but then again I am not materialistic.
well who did u marry the rock or your husband {}
I would simply pick it up and enjoy the fact my husband cared enough to replace the empty space and get back to more important issues.
Buy him a big bunch of nice smelling flowers with the happiness in knowing you are not paying off a real diamond.
Who cares WHAT he put in it, the problem here is why he would lie to you about it, or mislead you into thinking it was a real diamond. That’s the problem!
So directly ask him about it. Hopefully he’s not the lying personality type like my husband is, unfortunately, and tells you up front.
Otherwise, it’s really not a big deal. A big disappointment, yes, but not something to base your relationship on unless he’s lied about it directly.
I would do absolutely nothing, get over it and remember you lost the first diamond?
Laugh, after all, he got you. Tease him about being cheap, and never let him forget it…But be kind. My husband wouldn’t have even bothered. He’s a good guy, but I think he’s related to Scrooge. His take on it would have been, “I spent all that money on that diamond, and you lost it?” He would be more upset about me losing it than I would. He would need counseling to recover, and he wouldn’t be trying to make me feel better. He’d be putting a guilt trip on me, well, trying to…
Be grateful for the money you both saved.
so cute of him//
he just didnt want to hurt you and wanted that you should not feel sad that you have lost the diamond..
love him more and respect his feelings…
he did just to make you happy and see smile on your face and free from regret that you lost the diamond
so what feel good and happy that you have a caring husband who cares so much about your feelings..
he just didnt want that you should cry or feel about the lost diamond.. pretend that you dont know…and just be happy
I would just let it go.
I think people make too big a deal out of the rings. If you really love a person does it matter? This is all material stuff? So what? Maybe his grandma is the one that did not have the real diamond. Wouldn’t you rather save the money for the future than spend it on some ridiculous ring?
This seems like a silly thing to be upset over. What makes your marriage, your ring, or what that ring means?
I know I am not the type of woman who even goes for the diamonds and fancy stuff. My wedding ring is a silver band, exactly what I asked for.
Don’t worry about this… there are better battles to fight in life than this one.
Give him a really good bashing up
Ignore everyone bashing you for being upset. Your hubby lied to you - plain and simple. Maybe because he was embarrased that he can’t replace it, or maybe because he was annoyed that you lost the first one. Regardless, he lied, and that’s a huge issue. In a calm, non-confrontational way, just come clean and tell him that the jeweler told you it was a CZ, and you want to know why he covered it up. Not because the diamond is an issue, but because he didn’t trust in your relationship enough to be honest with you.
Something else to consider, maybe he didn’t know it was a CZ? Give him a chance, let him explain, and if it’s just a simple misunderstanding, forgive and let go. He can make it up to you for your next big anniversary..